it's good if we find that we are problem.
i'ts good if we know people don't like us, are not comfy with us.
yeah. i'm saying it's good. humans. factually that humans... humans means us... so, we are created to face and solve the things we take it as problems.
if we are problem, what should we do?
if we are not liked or people don't comfy with us, what do we do?
ain't trying to be a motivator or what here. i want to share what i think.
as a Muslim, it's useless to live this life if we don't have any contribution toward people around us. this is one of the basic mind-settings, for me.
we're not living this life alone. we live this life with others.
then, how to be with others? of course, communicating.
and, i do believe and have faith, communicating either it's one way or two ways, it involves physically, emotionally and spiritually.
before all the communication occur, our mind setting should be cleared.
since last year, i found that the theory of Johari window's really made me think positively. yeah. alhamdulillah.
it's not only ourselves have a view for us and we do have something we don't know until someone tell us. we have people in the same circle with us and people that never know us like really know us (not in the same circle) that can help us to look at our hidden selves naturally (we don't have to ask people directly, it's just life). AND, when we do find something about ourselves from others, we just have to be fair to ourselves in accepting the things.
we may reflect on our lives...
for me, i've learnt.. i think. i do think that people around do have their own significance in my life. in building my character. definitely, they do help me to reflect my own self. this is just like putting ourselves in their shoes. yes. as simple as that, simple? maybe.
we do concern about ourselves.
but, we do too have to concern about others.
others affect us in many ways.
to make others understand us, we have to share with them.
share what? share our thoughts. they might be not accepting ours, but at least they know.
and it has to be in two directions. it's unfair if they know about us, but we don't know them.
so, we have to know them too. know their thoughts too.
this is where we learn to respect each other.
i too a person that difficult to listen to others. but, do make du'as and do tell people to help me in improving myself. (people who live around me may not agree with this, but, at least this is what i think and feel...)
the hard times for us maybe different in situation, but the room of hope for us the same as we raise our hands and make du'a.
may Allah ease, people.